Coming Out of the Closet, Senator Rob Portman Now in Support of Gay Marriage

Coming Out, Senator Rob Portman makes his Gay Son Proud and Embraces Gay Pride

coming out, gay marriage, out of the closet, coming out of the closet, gay men, gay counselingRepublican Senator Rob Portman formerly a defender of DOMA, the defense of marriage act, has had a change of heart. He’s coming out himself since his son came out to him as a gay man 2 years ago. Now the Senator has decided that same-sex marriage is just as good as opposite-sex marriage. While many in the media are disparaging him as an opportunist who has seen the writing on the wall, he also deserves credit for making good with his son and coming to terms with at least a little bit of his own homophobia.

Anybody who has come out of the closet knows it is probably the single most empowering thing a person can do in their life. When you switch from hiding who you are and pretending to be something you are not for an out an proud ownership and acknowledgement of who you really are in all your glory you step into your own power. And when you claim your god-given right to be the amazing and special person you were born to be, you also have an effect those who love you; people like your parents.

Those of us who work with the LGBT community either as counselors or activists have known for a long time that the single most powerful thing an LGBT person can do to win their families over and get them to accept that gay is just as good as straight is to come out to them. If your family loves you then they also come out of the closet as supporters of LGBT people. Will Portman, the Senator’s son, proves that in a very public and powerful way.

Senator Portman is the first powerful Republican Senator to endorse gay marriage. He, at least, has ended his version of the typical Republican two-faced stance of saying that government should not interfere in people’s personal lives while at the same time trying to legislate the Republican brand of morality onto everybody. He had to come to term with the fact that if he continued his homophobic bigotry he would be condemning his own son. Faced with that dilemma he finally found a way to do the right thing.

The Supreme Court is about to hold a hearing on the constitutionality of DOMA. Senator Portman was a co-sponsor of that bill in the 1990s. His rejection of DOMA now is good news for civil rights and the rights of LGBT people as a whole. Let’s hope that the Supreme Court, like Senator Portman, decide to do the right thing and repeal DOMA, taking one more step towards a fair and equal society for all.

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